Friday, February 13, 2009

5 Rules For Life

My "5 Rules for Life" are also posted on the blog "5 Rules for Life" HERE. Please, visit if you can. Then, come back here to read Dr. J's cool comment (his 2nd one).

5 Rules for Life

1. This too shall pass. When I was younger, the intensity of my emotions colored my perception of everything, and it seemed as if my experience of the moment was a permanent state. Now I realize that every mood, every situation, everything comes and goes, ebbs and flows. So, I try to ride the waves of life, and enjoy still waters when things settle.

2. Now could be the very last moment you spend with a loved one. I realized this after the death of my father. There were so many loose ends in our relationship when he became ill, and died. There is much I would have done differently, if I could do it all over again. There were so many little ways I could have been nicer to my dad. I could have spent more time with him, could have apologized for the horrible things I said during my turbulent teens. But...

3. Regret is useless. We cannot change the past, but we can learn from it.
In terms of lessons learned from #2, I now try to choose, moment to moment, to treat those I love as if these were the last moments we might spend together. Of course, I don't always succeed. But, I...

4. Forgive. I forgive myself and others. Forgiving is an art, and I intend to spend the rest of my life perfecting it. I've learned from experience that holding a grudge is painful, but forgiveness opens the door to healing and peace. When I'm having a hard time forgiving another person, I remind myself that...

5. It's never about "them"--it's always about me. No matter how many times my ego tries to trick me into believing that "I'm upset because so-and-so did such-and such and he was wrong, and, and, and...", I know, and try to hold the knowing, that everything in life is a lesson. Every event, every upset, every person, (those I love, and those who annoy me--often the same people), illuminates something about me that needs healing, understanding, resolution or clarification. And if I miss the lesson, that's OK! The same lessons will keep appearing in my life until I learn what I need to learn.


  1. I have had an easier time since I learned #1.

    I do better with the others with applying #4 :-)

    Have you seen the 10 rules of life? I put them on a post a while ago.

    Love the little scorpio, heart breaker that she will be! (I should know Nov. 2Oth)

  2. #4 can be tough.

    I don't think I've seen your 10 rules for life. Can you tell me the link?

    She WILL be a little heart-breaker. My brother is also a Scorpio. Aren't you almost a Sagittarius?

  3. The rules of life
    I have appreciated “The Rules of Life” since I discovered them years ago! Although some have claimed authorship, My copy was written by “Anonymous, discovered taped to a refrigerator in Toronto, Canada."

    I like that story better!

    You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for this time around.

    You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called “life.”

    There are no mistakes, only lessons.

    Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. Life may increase the severity of the lesson. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

    Learning lessons does not end. There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons. If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.

    “There” is no better a place than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here” you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”

    Other people are merely mirrors of you. You love or hate something about another person because it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

    What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

    Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

    You will forget all the rules!

    That's the list, Ruth!

    My understanding is that in astrology, there is no almost :-)